The Healing Power of Letting Go: A Path to Inner Peace 🕊️

Hi, you,
Today’s topic is something I personally struggle with a lot, being a Taurus or simply because of habits I picked up over the years or ego—the struggle to let go of anything.

How could he or she say that? How can they get away? Why did that happen? Be it relationship breakups, friends, cousins parting ways, or simply not doing well on a test, conversations, or lack of them—anything and everything that hurts my feelings just makes a home for itself in my heart and refuses to leave.

With spiritual practices, mindfulness, logic, and tons of books, I am now able to catch myself in that pit and get out sooner or later, but it’s still a struggle sometimes, especially when you don’t know where the hurt originates from.

I found myself in my bed today, unable to move or sleep, in my freeze state. Why, you ask? It was because people who I will never see again in my life had rejected me, or at least I felt rejected. Of course, the real reason was a lot denser, but that’s how it looked on the surface, and I felt so angry, lost, and guilty for feeling it.

It was as if I was not allowed to feel this as a person who’s been on a spiritual journey for a while. But how am I supposed to grow if my ego associates itself as a spiritual being who’s suddenly so above it all, to deal with normal emotions? Or how was I supposed to heal those parts which were so desperately ready to be healed (hence were on the surface)?

This blog is your reminder to let go. To let go of things keeping you stuck. To let go of things that are not serving you. But most importantly, let go with consciousness—make space for healing by letting go. Embrace not clinging to something. Dare to be free of those grasps.

Yes, it sounds fun, fancy, and easy, but how to?

Letting go is a concept that’s extremely difficult for me to explain to you in just a few pages. It has layers and layers to explore and understand. But for today, I want to share just a few things to keep in mind in your personal journey toward healing.

The very first step to healing is letting go. What you want to let go, can be decided by you —is it a relationship or a childhood wound, a friendship breakup, or a career move? Whatever you can’t move past or whichever emotions or situations keep you tied up, here’s your cue to move past it.

Why move past it?
I can give you hundreds of reasons, but it all boils down to just a few. Out of those few, here are my top three reasons: growth as a human being (spiritual, personal, or even professional), manifesting your dream life, emotional regulation, and overall a more joyful life.

When you grow past your fears, wounds, and attachments, you move toward a richer form of life—a calmer, more joyful, optimistic kind, a kind that’s truly meant for all and is just a switch away. That switch is from your old attachments to newer, deeper understandings of life.

You can stay stuck in a moment, emotion, or feeling for many reasons, but it all falls back to attachments, fear of the unknown, deep hurt (i.e., wounds), or simply not being aware. So let’s target it:

1) First step
The situation hurt you, that person hurt you, that conversation hurt you—so why are you holding on to it?

Find out your why. When I thought about it, I figured it wasn’t about those people hurting me that kept me stuck; it was about them rejecting me somehow, or at least that’s what I felt.

I felt rejected, which triggered old patterns or wounds around rejection in me, especially as a person who so desperately tried to fit in ever since I could remember but never could.

I thought I had already dealt with it, that I was okay not fitting in, but the wounds and triggers said otherwise. I was still not okay when my favorite people somehow rejected me (even if it was just made up). So what is it for you? What is triggered? Once you know that, you can start to let go.

Don’t get me wrong, knowing alone isn’t enough. No amount of logic can help you move on. But it’s the first step.

2) A journey
Before moving forward, as I was constantly reminded through videos on YouTube, books, or people, here’s a reminder for you—healing is not a destination; it’s a lifelong journey. And yes, letting go helps you heal, but you will never be one hundred percent anew, and that’s okay. So don’t rush it or beat yourself up—one step at a time, enjoy the ride.

3) Moving past it
Your fears, your triggers, your attachments keep you lodged up, and I think the only way to move past them is to stand apart and see them for what they are. There’s a beautiful analogy in the book “Untethered Soul”:

“Imagine discovering a beautiful, shiny meadow filled with light and warmth. It feels open, free, and expansive—a metaphor for the unbounded nature of our true self or consciousness.

At first, you bask in its beauty, but over time, you notice potential discomforts: rain, wind, or the unpredictability of the environment.

To protect yourself, you build a small house in this meadow—a symbol for the walls we construct in our minds to shield ourselves from perceived threats, pain, or discomfort.

Initially, the house provides comfort and safety, but as time passes, you begin to retreat further into it, adding rooms and layers to ensure complete security.

Eventually, you lose connection with the shiny meadow altogether, confined to the walls of the house, forgetting the openness and freedom you once experienced.”

This is what you did. In your beautiful life, you got lost in the artificial security you made for yourself.

To protect yourself from the hurt, you hid deeper and ignored those feelings that arose. Your defense mechanisms have got you here. But the good news is, you are starting to become aware of the shiny meadow again—your self beyond these baggage or wounds. And you are here taking a step to move out; that itself is commendable!

4) Stop resisting
By now, you know your suppressed emotions and resistance to leaving an unpleasant memory or some wound of the past is keeping you stuck. So how do you stop resisting and start letting go?

I sat and asked myself this question: So what if they rejected me? Or so what if he/she said that to me?

With a lot of “so what” came tears, and with tears came some clarity. No, I am not asking you to cry unless it’s something that helps you or has come naturally.

I am asking you to press on the issue and not run.

Don’t bandage it up by doom scrolling or playing video games. Sit and ask and feel. Feel till you feel fresh or a sense of calmness. It won’t all come out at once, or maybe it will—it truly depends. For me personally, it takes weeks or months. But every time it gets triggered, press on the issue, notice it, feel it, sit with it—no matter how angry, agitated, guilty, or hurt it makes you feel.

Do what can help you: cry, journal, meditate, or simply just observe. STOP everything and make time for yourself this way.

Remember, emotions are energies. If you let them, they will flow naturally away, and if you hold on or resist, they can start accumulating and get heavy.

5) Where your focus goes, energy flows
I’m sure we have all heard of it. The more you focus on hurt or emotions that feel uncomfortable, the more they grow in your reality. It might feel confusing given the last point, but hear me out.

When I thought I was feeling the emotions, I was simply judging them. I felt angry and got angry at the fact that I felt angry. So, in turn, I was enraged and irritated the whole day at the smallest of things because I just couldn’t let myself feel anger (I felt it was a negative emotion, not needed).

The more I ran away from it or feared that I was becoming an angry person, the more I became that. And once I sat with it, analyzing where in my body or mind I felt that originating, the more I observed the pattern and simply let it pass non-judgmentally, the easier it got to let it go.

Focus your energy on observing and not judging.

Focus on good things in life. Once you surround yourself with the right-minded people, content, or surroundings, it gets easier to stay in that zone.

Sit with yourself and try not to control everything or anything in the moment. The need to control also comes from fear of the unknown or fear of failure, as the case may be. But try letting go of control once in a while.

Start small: let the responsibility you have delegated be delegated. Don’t micromanage, and trust that good things are coming your way without you needing to control every “how” of it.

5) Let go through action
Letting go is not just an internal process; taking external actions reinforces your intention to release what no longer serves you. These physical or symbolic acts help you embody the process of letting go.

How to let go through action :

Declutter Your Space:
Physical clutter often reflects mental clutter. Letting go of items you no longer need can create a sense of freedom and clarity. Choose a space—like your wardrobe, desk, or digital files—and remove anything that feels unnecessary or burdensome. Donate or discard items with gratitude for their role in your life.

Symbolic Actions:
You can perform rituals to release emotional baggage, like writing down what you’re holding onto (e.g., regrets, fears, toxic relationships) and safely burning or tearing the paper, symbolizing release.

Set Boundaries:
Letting go often involves releasing draining commitments or relationships. Setting boundaries can help you protect your energy. Have an honest conversation with someone, politely declining obligations that don’t align with your values.

Move Your Body:
Stagnant energy can linger in the body. Movement helps you release this tension. Try yoga, dance, or even a simple walk while imagining the weight of your worries leaving your body with each step.

7) Mindset
Some mindset shifts, like “Life is a co-creation: do your part and trust the universe to handle the rest,” “Resistance causes suffering; letting go brings peace,” “What’s truly meant for you cannot be lost, and what’s not meant for you cannot stay,” etc., can help you a long way.

The best way to cultivate these shifts is through consistency. Have a 5-minute affirmation routine each day or simply catch yourself whenever your mind brings up negative self-talk and reinforce it with positive ones. Do it until it becomes a habit, and you will see yourself naturally speaking more optimistically. Even your inner voice will.

With such vast topics like letting go, I always feel that no matter how much I write, it’s never going to be enough, but I’ll cut this long blog short here, and I hope these pointers help you.

Thank you for reading.
Catch you in another one…