YOU NEED TO HEAR THIS (Inevitable moments and how to deal with them?) ♣️
This blog can be put in the category of content that flows straight out of my heart. It’s something that I have been thinking about a lot lately.
Let’s get to it shall we?
Have you ever found yourself questioning the following :
Why am I going through this?
Why others seem to have the best of things, when I am struggling here to barely survive?
When will it stop?
Why is there nothing in my control?
Well at one point we all ask these questions..
But the real question is, if we are doing everything right, why are we being punished by the reality?
I have put out content on how to raise your vibration, how to be grateful, how to stop worrying, etc.
But what if you are doing everything right and still feeling stuck, hardly being able to get through the day?
What if you are struggling to just wake up on some days?
What if you are having endless lists of real problems?
What if your finances just never cope up with your expenses?
What if you are in a deep sea of debt?
What if your emptiness is growing each second, making all your efforts seem like a facade?
And I know in these circumstances, If I or anyone tells you “Do not worry, It’s all gonna be okay!”:
You would not believe them, given your experiences, thinking what do they even know about your problem or situation?
That would not really help you out in any way.
Hi all,
Let’s get honest here : The reason why I am even writing this blog, is because, I am going through something similar, at this moment. I have had these moments in the past, but it still isn’t easy!
PS: I am not talking about depression or any other mental health problems here. This is about those mundane days, where you don’t know if it’s just worth it.
Little background
We all have our own ways, to deal with life and shit it throws at us. And mine is finding comfort in doing things I love. Be it reading, writing these blogs, teaching, spiritual practices, etc.
But this past week has been so tough.
It took every possible ounce of positivity, motivation, ambition or hope, out of me. I was just sitting numb on my bed, listening to one bad news after the other. And nothing was in my control. Quiet literally nothing!
I did not want to write another blog, had no energy to teach, no motivation to even leave the bed.
It was as if, this whole journey was a lie. As if there was nothing to look forward to. All the efforts, everything was in vain.
And that’s when I found comfort in Old songs, not necessarily the positive ones. I had stopped listening to sad songs, as part of my whole “RAISING MY VIBRATION” journey. However, all my beliefs were in question, so why not?
I found solace in Gazals. Remember how as kids we all hated them? And adulthood just makes you understand the deeper profundities of these lyrics!
And that’s when it hit me!
A deeper truth of life!
And I wanted to share it with any one going through something, so challenging and soul crushing!
INEVITABLE CIRCUMSTANCES
I am not gonna get into the WHY’s of these Inevitable moments (the spiritual angle, the karmic angle or simply the action reaction reasoning.), but will simply try to provide some comfort through my words:
Here is something you might/might not wanna hear, during those inevitable moments of life:
Life doesn’t give you anything, you are not ready to handle. Know that you are strong.
If you have been reading my blogs for a while, you would be tired of hearing it by now, but “Universe doesn’t throw at you, anything you are not capable of handling already”.
Just like those school exams, it might seem easy now, to clear all those exams of 7th grade, however at that moment, it was your greatest challenge! Regardless of your age, if you cleared 6th grade, you were ready to face your 7th.
And listen to me “This challenge you are going through, is just preparing you for the best and worst of the coming years, and it’s not impossible, no matter how difficult it might seem right now”.
I know, you must feel “What do you know about my problem?”, and the truth is I do not, except the fact that, if you were chosen, out of the millions, to go through it, there is a purpose behind it, which is bigger than you and me, and the fact that “ It was given to you and you alone, because you have reached the level or stage, where you alone can face & overcome it.”
Be the torch holder of your life, and lead the way!
Find out what the Universe/ this situation trying to teach you.
Is it trying to teach you resilience, or patience, or gratitude, or a half glass full life? Or is this situation, in any way helping you get rid of evils of life like anxiety, restlessness, self esteem issues.. Look closely and figure out what is this situation trying to teach you or is preparing you for! Look deep and you’ll know. Remember, we keep being stuck in similar patterns and situations of life, until we learn and grow from it!
With each fall, you learnt how to walk & now you can walk without any conscious effort. No doubt the falls hurt, but the journeys you can take on because of that lesson, is priceless isn’t it?
So Look Closely. Deep breaths, you’ll get through it, & will teach others “how to”, in no time!
It’s your journey, Look at it from the lens of a Main character.
If you are questioning “Why ME?”, allow me to tell you that, “Because only you can handle this!”
Each one’s problems are different no matter how similar it looks from the surface, and therefore, do not compare. Look at yourself from a third person’s perspective.
The hero of your story always has the toughest battles, for example: Spiderman (it’s so inspiring to see him, always moving forward, smiling , making jokes even through the toughest of times), but so does the villain, choose your role wisely!
I’m not asking you to ignore your problems, or to feel a certain way – I am asking you to move forward and complete this chapter of your life, knowing that you are the hero of this story!
Everyone is going through something of their own.
If you find comfort in knowing that, “You are not alone in these crazy battles of life!”, then take this as an affirmation to that.
However, if you are like me who doesn’t like anyone let alone myself, going through these mindnumbing rides of life and definitely doesn’t find comfort in knowing that everyone is going through it, then this is for you :
“ Our situations, problems, challenges might be similar or different, but at the end of it, we all will come out as the Better or Best versions of ourselves. “ And there is no time limit for that. I believe we all keep evolving till our final breaths. So, maybe find comfort in leveling up.
Finding your light can be hard, but choose it anyway. No you are not crazy.
On days, when you are burdened with stress or baggage of your circumstances, and find it difficult to just get out of your bed, I know it’s hard to believe in things like Spirituality, god, universe, it will work out, etc. And more hard, to find the strength, motivation and your light which kept you going so far.
But, sometimes having that little voice in the back of head, guiding you to the place where you can find some rays of hope again, is the best thing possible. I know from experience, that during such times, we either stifle that voice from our fears or it is just lost in the loudness of chaos around.
SO, let me be that voice for you today, and tell you that, “There is a light at the end of the tunnel, so keep moving and keep choosing that hope every single day.” As sometimes, just that choice makes it all worth it again.
Everything plays out, keep sprinkling your life with little drops of Faith, every now and then.
Things get hard, before they are easy. There is a bigger law here at play, one you cannot see.
Reason might be defeated, but truth remains. In this vast Universe, we are nothing but tiniest of the beings alive, with consciousness of our own. And this all, according to me cannot be just a coincidence. There is something bigger at play here, something or someone we can’t understand, see, or even fathom to reason with. We all are playing a role in our and others life, in some way or another.
It’s not just me, but everyone who came before us, enlightened beings or not, have told this one thing in common, “It gets hard, before it gets easier.” Your whole life has been an example of that.
Reflect on those times, you overcame something that seemed impossible to you, initially.
Take one step at a time. Focus on things, that are in your control.
When you are stuck in a situation, where it feels like there is no coming out of it, or that there is nothing you can do about it, take that time you spend on worrying about it & start doing something small, that is infact, in your control.
For example : If you lost your job, and are not able to land another for months now. You are stuck in unimaginable debts with no savings in hand. Start by dusting the fear of survival off you, and start applying for new jobs again. DO everything in your power. Take the jobs not matching your choice or financial requirement (something is better than nothing right?). And continue working on your mindsets, beliefs & overall wellbeing.
Moving forward will open doors, which seem glued shut now. It’s what I have learned from My father and my own experiences.
I know it means settling, not getting life of your dreams : But maybe this is what is required to get you there. Everything happens for a reason, right? Maybe not, let’s find out?
Take time and space. Do not judge yourself.
Sometimes the best thing to do is to : “Not take action.”
Sometimes, its best to curl up on your bed, till you are done feeling everything you are feeling. Avoid people, situation or acts that need your energy, which you currently do not have.
And just rest, recharge!
I do not mean, make it worse. Don’t lie down complaining, worrying, fearing the situation at hand. I mean “REST” and “Real kind of Rest”, mental physical and emotional.
I know everything is a mess, AND we do not know when or how will it ever clear up, but I do know, it will. And thinking about “what if it doesn’t?” only keeps you stuck. Use your left energy to fight this, in smallest of the ways possible, even if it was just making that bed today!
Some practical tips would be :
Take that step in your control, get back to your practices (I know your faith is being questioned, and this is the last thing you wanna do, right now), reach out to others for help (there is nothing wrong in being vulnerable, trust me), Keep believing in the best of things, despite how they might be looking right now!
I hope my words comforted you, even if was for just a bit!
There is nothing I or anyone can say here to make you feel better, and I know that very well. Therefore, I just wanted to give you a warm hug, through these pointers. I know you will get through this, You are the Strongest person here today ,we all are! I wish us all, all the luck in the world!
